3 Reasons Why it is so Important to Rise Quickly after you Fail
Rise quickly after you fail
There are few certainties in life, but the one common and rock-solid certainty is that we will all fail at something in our lives. It’s pretty much one of life’s guarantees; take a risk and fail abysmally. We hate to fail because we are so focused on winning and having the ‘picture perfect’ visions we master in our minds. Yet we learn so much from every fall, failure, stumble, and harsh knock down in life. We needlessly cling to our failures, and those of others that were put upon us. The failure to love us, the failure to appreciate us, the failure to support or protect us. What truly matters though is how you rise after you fail.
For many who have experienced childhood or adult trauma, inner grief or mass failure of any kind, the emotional pain and mental darkness we hold within can become a place for us to fight for more. That pain and inner wounding can drive us forward if we utilize it and channel it through our higher wisdom and the power of our stubborn hearts. The most profound transformations arise through the dimly lit corners of darkness we conceal within.
“The key to realizing a dream is to focus not on success but on significance — and then even the small steps and little victories along your path will take on greater meaning.”
― Oprah Winfrey
Failure breeds further fear if we allow it to sink into our bones, yet if we follow our natural impulses to get up as swiftly as we can, we bravely bust through that space of anxiety and doubt- and failure fails to hold us back. The quicker you bounce back from failure and rejection- the stronger you become. Here are 3 reasons to rise quickly after you fail.
1. The strength to stand
When you get up, you realize that you can still stand. Whatever has knocked you off your feet may have bruised your ego, hurt your heart and wounded your spirit, but it has not won the day and it has not weakened your resolve. If someone physically knocked you to the ground, your survival instinct and ego-born drive will ensure you rise up to defend yourself. Yet when we fail at love, at business, at work or other relationships…it hits our confidence and rigidly roots doubt into our mind. We struggle to get ourselves up off the floor when we lose faith and belief in who we are. It doesn’t need to be that way. We are born so powerfully charged to rise up against difficulty. We only need to trust that we have what it takes.
Think of your inner strength in the same way as the muscles that allow our body to move. We need resistance and failure to grow stronger. Enhancing mental strength helps you to rise more quickly after you fail.
Whatever hits you will also bless you- so don’t fear falling down, just focus on courageously getting back up. Defeat is a state of mind; it is not the truth of our heart.
“Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength”- Arnold Schwarzenegger
2. Stay open to chance
We need to remain open to chance and the beauty of new things and beginning again. Our hearts are naturally impulsive. It is our mind that holds us back through logic and over-thinking. The only way to override your mind is by following your heart…to take a leap and see what lies on the other side. We let chances and opportunities pass us by if we sit too long ruminating within our own head-space. We took a chance before, we revealed our vulnerability…and we lost, so why try again? The answer to that question lies in the deepest chambers of your heart. You try again because hope is mightier than hurt, faith is far more powerful than fear and pain pushes us toward a higher purpose. Don’t let the ghosts of past failures take up residency in your mind.
We cannot totally negate doubt and caution. We are designed with flaws and human failings so that we can work through them and discover the true essence of our fiery spirit that thrives on chance, adventure and possibility.
Ultimately, wshould not be suspicious of ourselves. When we trust who we are we continue to take chances because we know the depth of our strength. When we ruminate over a decision or situation that we are in, we should consciously reflect back to an undeniable truth. That is, the pain of regret is far greater than the pain of pursuit.
“You will never stub your toe standing still. The faster you go, the more chance there is of stubbing your toe, but the more chance you have of getting somewhere”- Charles Kettering
3. Failure is the best success
Failure is the best success because you live and you learn. You build up a wise inner belt of life experience. Understanding and maturity enables you to propel forward with greater wisdom and self awareness. It’s impossible to fail if you value the gift of the lesson. When we stumble upon the rocks and rubble of our lost dreams, unrequited love, failed relationships, or rejection at work…we can galvanize our inner strength to its glory. We are the only ones that can turn those rocks into the beauty of blossoming roses. And to do that we must keep getting back up from everything that knocked us down. We can change our perspective on failure so that we view it as something that blends together our greatest strengths of courage and vulnerability.
Rather than criticize and judge ourselves for what went wrong, we can diminish the guilt and doubt and say ‘no’ to the weight of regret. Instead, we embrace the challenge of enhancing our will and wisdom. We rise up and burst through the ceiling of our own (or others) fears and suspicions.
“Failures, repeated failures, are finger posts on the road to achievement. One fails forward toward success”- C. S. Lewis
We cannot experience true success until we journey downward into the enlightenment that failure offers us. We egotistically focus so much on success that we lose the real wonder of the prize…what it actually means to be successful.
And what is that? It is the ability to bravely absorb adversity, to go the distance and keep rising every time you fail.
I have learnt, and am still understanding so much from my failures, here are 3 things I learned – Chrissy. I hope this inspires you to rise quickly after each fail or fall.