Rebel Hearts: 3 Reasons to Break your Own Rules
Break your own rules
We cannot escape the need for certain rules, restrictions, and societal or worldly regulations. There is an ethical code as human beings that we are inclined to abide by. There is a place for rules and particular ways of doing things, yet more importantly we should tentatively observe the behaviours that we individually live by. We all play a part in the whole.
Restriction is not congruent with our spiritual flame of limitlessness and possibility. Our heart does not like rules- it beats to a melody of chance. When we live our life by external rules and standards it is only natural that we filter them through in how we live. Yet our true wonder and magic does not live within boundaries that we create. Our full beauty becomes suffocated by order and restraint. The rules that we individually live by should be created on a basis of love, integrity and truth, and if those laws and limits that we build up in our minds restrict us then only we can break them and create a new way of being.
“I believe in rules. Sure I do. If there weren’t any rules, how could you break them?”- Leo Durocher
Limits pull us away from possibility because we shift our thinking to what we believe is doable, acceptable, or worthy of our efforts. Our mind will always process and perpetuate our thoughts through a scope of safety, protection and what is familiar. And then potential dies off as it is strangled by our perceived fear of change and the unknown. So the time comes when we need to break our own rules, embrace our rebel hearts, challenge our own thinking, and tear away at our false insulation so we can view life through an inspired outlook of what is possible.
“We are spiritual beings whether we want to admit it or not, and inherent in our DNA is a design to return us home – home to our true essence, our greatest self, our limitless self.” – Debbie Ford
1. Creative Charge
Our innate creativity is charged through our imagination and intuitive inspiration. Our inner desires require freedom and liberation from beliefs that don’t help to fire up our intrinsic creative ability. When we move away from the physical and tangible, we forge an illumination into the realm of the ethereal and seemingly intangible. Anything is possible once we lose the lies and ties of limits and self-created rules that we falsely feel offer us some protection from the outside world. Our true shield of protection is not a physical one; it is a spiritual one that is found in all the subtlety and strength we hold within. When we trust ourselves we align with our capacity for courage and to live fully rather than cutting ourselves short of our fundamental potential.
“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement” – Golda Meir
2. Truth and Integrity
Integrity means that we stand in our own corner with a vibrant stance of conviction in our values, beliefs, and moral standards. Truth and integrity is something that we cultivate and nurture. We chisel away at our own thoughts and feelings so that we have a greater understanding and awareness of who we are and what we stand for. This takes bravery and boldness because it sets us up for conflict with others. Yet when we live simply to please other people we lose out every single time. When we try to make ourselves fit in the shape of someone or something else, we inevitably shrink and deny our own beauty and authenticity.
It is easier to play by the rules and to avoid challenge, yet it is far more enlightening and revolutionary to light your own way, to break your own rules, or those that you permitted others to hook you into. Stand strong in your space and live your truth, accept yourself as the unique individual that you are; learn to love the light you hold within.
“Integrity has no need of rules” – Albert Camus
3. Loving Acts of Kindness
We owe ourselves our own loving act of kindness to fight for our dreams and to value and accept all our intrinsic faults and nuances. Loving ourselves is a rebellious act. We are externally fed limits, doubts, non-acceptance and judgements yet when we make a decision to liberate ourselves from them we can determine our own design and be the architects of our abilities. We can always choose where we dwell. When we live in our own kindness and tender acceptance we naturally allow that to transcend and awaken us to the beauty of possibility. We are entwined with ever-lasting hope and made stronger by all our perceived weaknesses. We have all we need within to choose with wisdom and make good on all our aspirations. When we choose with love, she lights our way- this is one rule that is worthy of our focused attention.
“Understand that the right to choose your own path is a sacred privilege. Use it. Dwell in possibility”- Oprah Winfrey
We are the creators of the code we choose to live by. By allowing ourselves the learning curves of all that has gone wrong, we lead into all that is right and aligned with our path. We will often erect internal walls and dark doors to keep us from making the same mistakes. Yet when we illustrate ourselves with rules and limitations that we inspire through fear, we deny the lesson and experience that those circumstances can offer us. Instead, we can decide to direct ourselves through loving intention. By breaking the rules and rebel hearts, we can absorb into the magic of possibility… as often as we can.