3 Things to Remember When Life is Not Going Your Way
Do you ever wonder why despite your best efforts, still, life does not seem to go your way? Things keep going wrong, and your heart breaks just a little more each time you feel like you have taken a step forward only to be moved 10 steps back.
I know this feeling, I have lived with it all my life, and every major change that I have made throughout my life has been the result of a massive and painful upheaval. I have been pushed, shoved, and knocked into my personal and spiritual growth. It has not been easy- and it was never meant to be, because this is my life experience, my unique footprint on this planet, this is how I have delved into the furthest reaches of my spiritual compass- through every hit, hurt, and transforming circumstance that has challenged my physical existence.
I have questioned myself, prayed endlessly, begged to whomever I felt would listen in the realm of the divine to bring me into the vision I have created for my life. And this was the problem- I was perhaps trying too hard, tirelessly working to maintain control of everything and every outcome, and when things didn’t measure up to this picture in my mind I would feel like I was still being held back, or weighed down upon by karma in some way. But I was never being penalised– just pushed to evolve and transcend by embracing and accepting this as my journey rather than constantly fight it.
When things are not going your way, remember that life is not rigid, fixed, or something that fits neatly into your vision of how it should be for you. Your experience of life is your individual quest to remember who you are on a spiritual and cellular level, and to find the truth that leads you right back into your authentic and sacred heart space.
Here are 3 things to remember when things are not going your way…
The bigger picture
For everything that you can physically see, there is so much more that you cannot. Don’t become so fixated on what you see before you as the end and final result. We all have our own piece that slots into the universal puzzle and it won’t always be clear where our piece is supposed to fit because it relies on many other things- flow inspires fluidity and allows space for your life to fall into place, to plunge into the timing and alignment of your soul essence. The phrase “everything happens for a reason” is often the last thing we want to hear when we are struggling or facing some kind of adversity- but it is true. Everything has meaning, purpose, and life is all about connection, as Plotinus said “everything breathes together”. We are intricate and complicated beings, and life is just the same way, don’t expect it to be any different, instead, open your heart and mind to the beauty and innate mystery of it all. We can find the beauty when we look for the bigger picture and tweak our perspectives on what life is, or what it can be when we step outside of ourselves.
“A lot of times we base everything just on our immediate circumstance. We don’t see a big picture for our lives. We don’t love ourselves. We don’t have a way of kind of gauging the future, so we count it lost” – Jennifer Holliday
You have value, and the gifts and talents that you have at the very centre of your soul have value. Sometimes, when things aren’t working out as we had hoped or planned, we nestle in to a doubtful and loveless way of thinking. We mistrust and lose confidence in ourselves, the potential of what we have to offer, and begin to question if we are enough. Do not question your value- believe in it. Doubt and anxiety creates an internal block because it is in conflict with the beauty of your higher self and who you are at a spiritual level. Don’t keep trying to escape the reality that you are in, once you learn to accept it then you can take action to move past it. And that action can simply be the most powerful and courageous act of surrender, surrender to the present moment and all it has to teach you. There is value in what you are dealing with right now, and the value that you have as a person is never under question in the eyes of natural law. Your value is a given, what you add to it is what you create- and that is something that no one can take away from you. Keep believing in all you are even when everything or everyone else seems against you.
“Life wanted me to value myself
So I was stripped of what I valued
The glass doors shattered piece by piece
Empty pictures framed the wall of my heart
And darkness found an open window
So I could seek my worth from within
To see myself through my inner vision
To value myself from a place
That no one could touch or take from me
Where my words speak my heart
Open and free
This was the only way
I could value me” | Value, Poem by Christine Evangelou
Authenticity- the light at the end of the tunnel
Sometimes, we face certain challenges and tribulations that really test our ability to maintain our integrity and authenticity. The bottom line is that you should not trade your authenticity, or what is real and true for you in order to please others, or society as a whole. On the other hand, if what you are currently doing or aiming for is not in alignment with your truth and who you quintessentially are, then it is destined to fall to pieces in order for you to create something that is. Truth is everything. If you can reach for your dreams and aspirations from a place of pure truth and honesty then life will find a way to guide you to where you are meant to be. Authenticity is a long, arduous and sometimes deeply dark road…when all the external lights have faded out, all you have to believe in is the presence that you hold within to move you forward. Other people will not always be by your side on this road, so be prepared to walk it alone if needs be. Just know that when you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, it doesn’t mean you should turn back and give in… it means you faithfully move forward with every morsel of inner strength that you can gather and realise that in fact- you are the light that you have been seeking.
“Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference” | Two Roads, poem by Robert Frost
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