3 Reminders on Worry, Inner Unrest and the Desire to Chase
“Realize what you really want. It stops you from chasing butterflies and puts you to work digging gold”- William Moulton Marston
Anxiety and worry is something that we all deal with. For many of us this worry and inner unrest is a daily battle to contend with rattling thoughts. Excessive worry acts like a thief to our joy, our dreams, and our life in general. It devours our confidence and knowing what we want. Rather than allowing our minds to steal us away we can find ways to better equip ourselves mentally and emotionally to move through these low points or times of frustration. There is normally some catalyst that sets anxiety into motion; if we can scrape away at our worries and confusion then we can determine what sits beneath and deal with it.
We can feel very alone and solitary in our thoughts. Sometimes the people that surround us will not be able to comprehend the magnitude of what goes through our mind even when we do our best to express it; or we may decide not to try and shut ourselves off from those around us. Solitude can be a gift if we can use that time to patiently sift through our inner processes and work our way through mind clutter, anxiety and trapped emotions.
Here are 3 reminders on worry, inner unrest, and the desire to chase
1. Let thoughts come and go
Thoughts and emotions are naturally transient and impermanent. Anytime we sit with anything for too long we allow its energy to feed into us. Sitting with worry or holding onto fearful thinking will only heighten and exacerbate it. Worry and inner unrest will cloud each decision and judgement call we make and plague us with emotional turmoil. We confuse and confine ourselves in our own head space, and we can think ourselves into oblivion by imagining all types of scenarios that have little or no relevance to the present time. Instead of staying on that ride of mental chaos we can observe and reflect on our thoughts- discerning what is real over and above what is constructed by our mind.
Share your thoughts, write them out in black and white and give them a voice- only accept what has authenticity at its centre. Sometimes just taking a step back and immersing yourself in something you love to do is all that is needed to help you reset- connect to your heart.
“With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts”- Eleanor Roosevelt
2. Fears, worry, and anxiety are not the truth of you
We keep our insecurities locked away and hidden from sight so that we can protect ourselves and feel a certain safety within. This is our human nature; we ache for comfort as much as we desire change. Fears make us human, worry wraps our wrists in chains, and anxiety is a signal of internal unrest because we feel at threat in some way. They can all direct us to something within that we can transcend. They are just energies that we absorb or invite into our lives born from something that shifted them into gear- something from our past, an untruth we told ourselves, or an overwhelming impact from another person’s words or actions toward us.
Whatever the case may be, pent up emotions and deceptive thoughts need to be filtered through a truth-seeking lens. If certain cycles continue to repeat in your life look for common links- self awareness is our navigator toward change and inner transformation- a way to soothe the inner unrest.
“By admitting your inadequacies, you show that you’re self-aware enough to know your areas for improvement – and secure enough to be open about them”- Adam Grant
3. Release the need to chase
We are constantly chasing something- happiness, success, perfection, this chase inadvertently moves us further away from the very things we are trying to hold onto or manifest in our lives. Chasing can be born from a fear of not actually getting. As long as we externalize our wants and needs then we will end up short changing ourselves in some way- what we have right now is our greatest blessing because that is what creates what comes next. We rigidly cling to how we want things to look and how we want our lives to be and then we lock ourselves out of life’s dance that is weaved on a dance-floor of flow, trust, and patience.
The need for control often leaves us feeling very much out of control and this amplifies worry and anxiety. Instead, we can choose to love ourselves now and to find happiness in being who we are in this moment- including every fault, quirk and flaw.
The pieces of the puzzle
We can relinquish the need to have it all figured out by trusting that the puzzle always completes as the pieces find a way to come together. If we can be confident, committed and strong in our ‘now’ then we can surrender worry and control of the future- because we trust ourselves and the innate timing of our life. From inner unrest, we move toward inner peace.
“Nature is ever at work building and pulling down, creating and destroying, keeping everything whirling and flowing, allowing no rest but in rhythmical motion, chasing everything in endless song out of one beautiful form into another”- John Muir