3 Healing Tips for Unspoken Words, Broken Promises and Lost Apologies
“The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone”- Harriet Beecher Stowe
Healing from Unspoken Words and Broken Promises
Unspoken words and apologies that we never received can leave a haunting imprint on our hearts. Broken promises shatter our hopes and dreams. That promise was something we built our hearts vision upon, only to see it fragmented into pieces in the wasteland of lost dreams. Those unsaid words become like graveyard ghosts that hide in the shadows of our soul, tied in pain and sorrow. The echo of these words always seems to find a way to whisper back to us, calling us once more to their attention like an unfinished symphony. Until they are released with love, understanding, and compassion they will remain chained within us.
We hang on in hope and cling to broken promises because sometimes hope is all we have. We are the masters of holding ourselves hostage in what we have already lost- because there was a mirage of safety in what it spoke of.
You can seek to embrace your power over absent words and denied promises rather than allowing them the space to cause a continuation of internal harm and unrest. You cannot be responsible for the words unspoken or lost apologies of others. An apology you deeply know you deserve is not something you can force. A demand your words be heard is even more painful if there is no one on the other end that is open enough to listen. Sometimes it is only our own promises and pledges that we should grace our whole hearts and dreams upon.
Through awareness and acceptance we can sculpt a route back to our own place of love and inner strength, have truth and conviction in our own authenticity, and let the rest go so we can move forward.
“You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice.” – Bob Marley
We cannot cunningly swerve around or shallow tip toe in the painful pool of unsaid words and lost hopes. We can only delve deeply, uncovering each sullen and tearful experience to liberate ourselves from its vibration and direction. As a preservation of self, we may block our deeper emotions and deny our inner wounds. Yet the only way to move past them is through them. Little by little we can illuminate them from darkness and give them an open space for us to reflect upon them with love, wisdom, and our intuitive healing touch. As long as we refute them they will bitterly hang to each thread of future hope and faith that we have. Emotional pain scores deeply and transcends to surface level. It remains mirrored in our eyes and etched onto our broken smiles.
When we deal with our own darkness we are less likely to wound others with our own inner grief. We can take responsibility for what we hold within so it loses the propensity to destruct us and others. Cycles of pain are broken only when each of us can bravely and meaningfully mend.
“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars” – Khalil Gibran
Openness and exposure act like our hearts freedom fighters- releasing us from what keeps us imprisoned within a cartridge of sadness. Loving yourself and healing your pain is a pure and purposeful act of courage.
Guilt and regret are counterproductive and wasteful energies that will hinder any steps forward by pulling you back into its space. Ill intentions, remorse and bitterness enslave us, yet you can choose to be free. Forgiveness for what was lost, broken, or unsaid is both brave and admirable. We cannot force or push to forgive others or ourselves. It is a tentative process of liberation through love that takes time and great patience. Through the light of mercy and forgiveness we can appreciate that we are all human in our mistakes and our misjudgements. Understanding moves us toward empathy for every soul that is on their unique and divinely knitted path. Instead of judging the choices and actions of others we can decide to make better choices for ourselves.
Our inner spirit suffers in the harshness of our own thinking. If we can change our perceptions then we can define a more loving intent toward ourselves, and others.
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you” – Lewis B. Smedes
Forgiveness does not condone the deeds of hurt or ill will; it simply releases the bond of that pain within you and makes you stronger at the seams.
3. Find the Beauty
You will find within what is lost or unspoken what you seek to find. Rather than seeking out the radar of regret, sadness, and missed opportunity, you can stretch your thoughts to find some beauty in the pain. Tough experiences and sorrow act as our catalysts for change and renewal. Often it is the people that we love the most that become the initiators of these changes and transformations within us. We are bound to the people that we love through an infinite connection of affection. We are transformed by the people that hurt us just as much as the people that love us. And frequently they arrive in the shape of the same person. As a collective, we can endeavour to gain wisdom, greater self knowledge and a deeper love for self from sad times and broken faith.
We can choose to be different and give our hearts a voice. Choose to say what you want to say, and keep all your promises.
Empathy and Compassion
We can learn empathy and compassion for others and ourselves in full knowledge that we all walk within the world as intricate energies and experiences of love. Those that are reckless with our hearts and tarnish them with their own pain can teach us how to be wiser with ours.
“Doubt is a pain too lonely to know that faith is his twin brother”- Khalil Gibran
We can challenge ourselves to respect and honour our own hearts and be a light for others to follow theirs. Rather than betray and abandon what we hold within we can muster the nerve to courageously heal and decide to speak our hearts truth with conviction.